She thinks one of them is going to flirt with you and might even end up taking you from her. and our It could also be a case of different characters and to avoid the drama of it all, she keeps the peace by keeping you separate from her friends. They will question everything they say, everything they do, every move they make. Except, you've been together for a few months now and there's still no mention of meeting her family. She already had to spend much time mending things with her siblings. , Except her ''close friend''!! We fall in love at different stages but just because shes not ready to take the next step, it doesnt mean that shes not interested in you. If your partner is close-mouthed or avoids discussing it, that may indicate theres a problem theyre too timid to discuss. . My friend won't let me meet her boyfriend? Your girlfriend is scared of your unpredictable nature. Here are the signs that it's happening to you. Tell her you want an introduction to her friends or you cannot move forward with her .. your guts are right it is not normal. arwen Platinum Member 5.9k Not friends, boyfriends or even husbands. But that isn't happening in your case. This means that we may include adverts from us and third parties based on our knowledge of you. Unless she has something to hide. There is a good chance that your girlfriend doesnt want you to meet her friends simply because she does not believe in the future of the relationship. If not, at least you get to skip the awkward meeting the parents stage. Please support TheClever so we can continue providing you with great content! BF Doesn't Introduce You? Both partners have to put in efforts to make it succeed. The more you open up to her, the more she's eager to listen to you. Sometimes, a guy doesn't introduce his female friend to his girlfriend possibly because of the fear of foul-play. If youre the type of person whos quite open about their relationship, it might seem quite odd when your partner isnt doing the same. She is using you like an emotional doormat or another person she needs to sleep with for a few days before finding another. If you offend her friends in the same way, she might lose them forever. Winter adds that if your same-sex partner has not come out to their parents, or if youre of opposing religious backgrounds, they may understandably have some concerns about introducing you to them and need a little time to acclimate to the idea. I feel like a 25 year old should be able to move out when they are engaged and make their own decisions in life. If a girl really likes you, she will go out of her way to listen to what you have to say to her. Without knowing this it is easy to assume shes keeping you away from them for a different reason. See How To Advertise. Your girlfriend lives a double life one with her friends in it and the other with you. There could be several reasons why your Girlfriend Doesnt Want Me To Meet Her Friends. I believe there are three possible answers: 1. Too much taste dulls the palate, It's not your job to hold her hand through every social interaction, but be aware of what makes your friends difficult to be around. The problem is she has a little boy of eight and Ive never met him. Your first step will be figuring out why theyre hesitant to make that happen. The last time you were in a social gathering, you drank too much and started spilling out all your embarrassing secrets, and she had to drag you home in a cab. Too much taste dulls the palate, Best way to know if a girl likes you is to read body language. Sometimes it is purely a matter of insecurities. They will intentionally try to break you. 1. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. "Information tends to travel fast, so theyd rather not risk sharing it with anyone," says Jovanovic. Sometimes it has nothing to do with you at all and it is a lot of external factors that are preventing you from meeting your partners friends. Even if you're not sure where you stand in the relationship, she's probably planning the next step, according to Diaz. Of course, there are a variety of reasons why this happens. If she reaches out to touch your hand while you're talking, offers to fix your hair, or brushes her hand against your arm, she might think of you in a romantic way. +1 y. Please whitelist TheClever or disable your ad blocker to continue. Don't you trust me?". However, in thesecond one, she is so concerned about her looks and her accomplishments that she thinks less of herself. His responsibilities towards his sister have been gifted to him. Its equally important to me that I win my partners family over as it is that mine doesnt totally scare them off. However, you must realize that she has chosen you to "be more than friends with." In other words be sympathetic, be supportive, and above all, be patient. @ poster, I think u have to include how long the rship has been, say 2 weeks, 3months, 1 year. They have been there for her through thick and thin. She is not serious about your relationship. If there are fewer fights and less uncertainty, it will make her feel more comfortable when introducing you to the parents. But the difference is that they get introduced to my brothers. As such, she says that withholding that introduction may signify that they're withholding their emotional commitment to you. If they have doubts about you and your relationship, that will put pressure on both of you. Believe it or not, some people genuinely believe in finding the one and it could be that you dont quite fit that description. It is also possible that the reason why she is keeping you away from her friends is that she doesnt trust them around you. You are. If these things are more important to her than being with you, I think this is a cue for you to leave. She wants to keep you away from her friends. I can understand that. She wants to spend time with both and, therefore, has chosen the best of both worlds, as per her convenience. Here are the signs that it's happening to you. Dont stereotype activities among gender roles because he surely is not. Because obviously, a woman who sees you as nothing more than a means to have sex will not even bother to get to know your fav baseball team, your hobbies and passion. Be the first to know what's trending, straight from Elite Daily, This Video Of Shawn & Camila At Coachella Has Fans Convinced They're Back Together. If your significant other doesnt seem to have any good reason for delaying this meeting, then you may want to take a look at their level of commitment at large. The ideal partner is someone who makes you feel comfortable and relaxed whenever youre in their presence. This is ridiculous, and she needs to know that. Therefore, you will have tostep into the arena and investigate a little to find the truth. The only person you know is your girlfriend. Women dont usually open up emotionally to men, until and unless they have been BFFs for a while. For example, if you find out that she is not letting you meet her friends because she is not yet comfortable with the idea, you should stop bugging her about it. 1.1K views, 21 likes, 5 loves, 0 comments, 0 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Charlyn Evangelista: Let's get married tagalog episode 8 #kdrama The relationship feels one-sided. You don't want to bring somebody over until it's really serious. Is she hiding something? Warning Signs That Your Girl Doesn't Love You Anymore. 3. Despite that, you found each other. If a guy didn't want me to meet his parents that would be a deal breaker for me. Deafilmedia said: She isn't ready. Whatever the reason, it always points toward a lack of trust, embarrassment, quick judgments, and opinions of other insignificant people. Don't, however, nag your partner about not meeting the family. If you get to know about her hidden insecurities, try to help her in dealing with them instead of accusing her in any way. If your girlfriend is simply not sure about the future of the relationship then she will see no reason to introduce you to have friends. When She Came Along With Her Friends On a date (funny Pics), Nigerian Girl Shamelessly Talks About Foursome She Had With Her Friends [PICS]. (13 Possible Reasons). It should not be taken as an offense or as a sign that your partner is cheating on you if they exchange their numbers with someone while they see you. The truth is if someone wants something serious with you, they wont be hesitating. This is another good reason to explain why your girlfriend doesnt want you to meet her friends. She doesnt want to disappoint the people closest to her, so shell put if off for as long as possible. I didnt think it would happen to me again but I fell in love with her, to the point where I feel more strongly about her than I did about my ex. Let's say she introduces you to her friends. She thinks the unnecessary judgment from her friends about you might drive you out of her life. I acutally felt uncomforatable the first time she did it . 131Disclaimer: Every Nairaland member is solely responsible for anything that he/she posts or uploads on Nairaland. She fears that the same thing might happen when you meet her friends. The term "boyfriend" just seems sophmoric to me. However, she said she might not be ale to because " i would need to be engaged first, i dont know.". There is nothing in the world that she prioritizes before you and you both are each others, favorite human. It of course doesnt mean you have to remain a secret forever, it is just simply a strategy to buy more time until she figures out how to bring the subject up. Sometimes, you do these things subconsciously, and while youre not usually aware that youre doing it the people around you pick up on these habits. Give her easy outs. He doesn't deserve to be your boyfriend if he makes you feel bad about yourself. When He Cooks for You (Here What It Means). The friends you are so eager to meet don't know squat about you being her partner. She is not serious about your relationship. .cos it was unexpected. Have some patience. He might be scared his female friend might sabotage his relationship with his girlfriend. You passed comments about their appearance, and they got offended. For example, if you try to book a trip for the both of you this summer and they say, "Let's not make plans too far in the future, thats a red flag that they may be having doubts or fears (which would explain why theyre unsure about introducing you to their loved ones). "Pocketing is a situation where a person you're dating avoids or hesitates to introduce you to their friends, family or other people they know, in-person or on social media, even though you've been going out for a while. Dr. What to Do When My Girlfriend Talks to a Guy Who Likes Her? A better life awaits you. "By not introducing the person they're dating to others, they are protecting the fragile image of themselves that attracted the person in the first place. If she immediately gets defensive, that could be a red flag. For an optimal experience visit our site on another browser. .I don't like making too much friends neither ready to know her friends . However, it can also be the case that she feels you might embarrass her in front of her friends and therefore is not taking you to meet them. However, its crucial to keep in mind that introducing someone to your parents is a vulnerable move. If you never met them, none of this would happen. I have no doubt she loves me, but shes keeping me at arms length while I want to move things on to the next level. Dr. When the time is right youll introduce her to the family and shell introduce you to hers. Need help with your relationship? If it sounds like the person is seeing the relationship moving in a similar manner, ask to meet their friends and/or family or discuss a time frame around this.". She probably is doing that to four other people. Shes hiding you from someone in the group if not all. After all, if youre not serious about someone, you wouldnt even consider it. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. And maybe the thought of you exhibiting these qualities in front of her family is whats putting her off. She has very little contact with them because they don't agree with our relationship and she says they're racist and do not like me because I'm black. Remember the time she introduced you to her siblings? It doesnt necessarily mean that she has bad intentions, but it could be that she wants to keep her past buried. Roles because he surely is not use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience his towards. 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